We all can communicate in some form another. Most of us are capable of speaking, even through sign language. We learned as children to form sounds, put them together to make a word and put words together to form a thought and then form a sentence or a paragraph. We grasp the fundamentals of communicating through our voice.
So, we do I mean when I say FIND YOUR VOICE?
Your “Voice” is more than just the words. Every sound in the Universe is a vibration. Each vibration is a form of energy. When you speak, you release multiple vibrations out into the world. It’s way more than just the physical sound you think.
Every sound carries multiple components, so we receive them on multiple levels. When we hear a sound or someone’s “voice”, we feel it first, so our emotional body gets engages, then we hear it and engage our physical body and then we comprehend it and engage our mental body. The combination of the three, allow us to determine our response to that sound or voice. Same is true with what we put out in terms of vibrations when we speak. Other people pick up on our emotions, often more than the words we speak.
Your emotional voice has to do with what’s going on inside you at any given moment. It’s how you are feeling when you speak or how a sound you hear makes you feel.
For example, an unexpected, sudden, loud sound will throw you into high alert. You might jump, scream, or run. It triggers the Fight/Flight/Freeze response and floods your body with cortisol. On the other hand, a pleasant melody, will throw you into heart energy and release dopamine, your happy hormones and your experience is totally different.
When you speak from a place of doubt, fear, shame, guilt, unworthy or unlovable, your vibration is lower. Some people can’t hear you, many times you are ignored, and your words carry no weight. Your vibration is one of unworthy and it comes across as such.
When you speak from a place of unhappy, anger, rage, your vibration is higher but discordant. It overwhelms others, sending them into Fight, Flight or Freeze … they can hear you, but not as you really may want. Your energy comes across as demanding and something others want to avoid.
When you speak with confidence, clarity and purpose, your vibration is higher. When it comes from your heart, it comes across as sincere, honest, and trustworthy. Your voice is clear and inviting, more charismatic and comes across as commanding.
Your physical voice component has two parts … one the vocalization when you speak and the way your body feels when you hear sounds you didn’t make with your vocal cords.
When you speak, the physical component has to do with the loudness you project .. a whisper or a shout and the in-between levels. It also has to do with your clarity of sound .. are your vocal cords clear and producing an even sound or are the scratchy and you feel like you need to clear your throat?
Your physical component combines with your emotional component and as you emit the sound from your vocal cords, you release a frequency and a vibration that others pick up and interpret.
If you are unsure of yourself, your voice sound will be weak, it you are angry your voice will overwhelm and if you are confident, you will be clear and commanding.
Your mental voice component has two parts … one that forms the thoughts and words you speak and where your mind goes when you hear sounds or other people speaking.
When you want to speak you mind forms the thoughts and words, engages your vocal cords and you speak with your emotions coming through your words.
When you are speaking from a place of unworthy, doubtful, unconfident or telling a fib, your voice comes across as weak, sends out red flags to others and they either ignore you or go to on alert.
When you are speaking from a place of anger or judgment, you voice comes across as overwhelm or repulsive and others want to get away from you.
When you are speaking from a place of confidence, clarity and control, your voice comes across as someone others want to hear and be around.
When you hear a sound or someone else speaking, your own mind goes through these three phases to decide your response to the sound or to them.
Your “voice” is the one that comes from your heart. It is based on your core beliefs, opinions, thoughts, and dispositional attitudes. It’s the responses you have to every situation in your life. Are you positive or negative?
Are you beating the same old drum?
Do you change your “voice” when you learn something new or do you respond to something as not for me and keep beating the same drum?
Have you taken the time to really look at your voice and see how much of it is truly yours?
Yep – I said how much of your voice is truly yours.
Is what’s coming into your head and out your mouth on autopilot, a ‘canned’ response you give, and/or a regurgitation of other people’s information that you have accepted as truth for you without thinking about whether it’s actually true or not?
OR
Is what’s coming into your head and out your mouth filtered through your efforts of uncovering what is really your own beliefs, opinions, and dispositional attitudes?
For example, are you regurgitating your parents’ beliefs around money, work, relationships or have you taken some time to listen to your own rhetoric and evaluated it for truth for you?
Are you one that hears something and repeats it, or do you research for the truth before speaking it?
Do you blindly believe what you hear, read or see or do you ask questions?
I know you want to be authentic, to be significant and be real. To be true to yourself, first and foremost. When you find your voice, your real voice, by discovering more about yourself and your why behind the beliefs, core values, opinions, judgements, and dispositional attitudes that make you uniquely you.
Finding your voice is liberating, it sets you free in ways you’ve never known before and when you feel free and safe to be you, to express yourself, you can be heard.
Finding your voice, is about self-discovery. Separately out everyone else’s information and deciding for yourself what is true for you, truth for you, the principles you want to live by, your core beliefs and your personal code of conduct. What is right or wrong for you? What is important for you? What atrocities break your heart in a way they inspire you to action?
These are some of ways your voice shows up and lets you speak up and speak out when its important. It’ your shining light that moves you along your path.
Now, one more thing about truth. Truth is subjective, very personal, and rarely an absolute. Your voice gives you the right to stand UP for you but is never permission to spew it onto others or try to force them to live by your truth. Each of us is a sovereign being and each of us gets to choose our own truth. I like this part the best – it frees me the responsibility of thinking I’m the master of the universe and get to dictate others’ behaviors … and it puts that responsibility back on them where it belongs.
Hugs and Love, Leslie